So last night I didn't cook and dinner fell into my husband's hands. Which means we ate takeout! :) As he was taking mine and the kiddo's order on a piece of paper, I joked and said something to the effect of, "Well, maybe you should right down to to check the bags before you drive off so the order is right." Because, no fail, whenever my sweet husband gets to-go food, something in the bag is wrong!
Getting into my Jeep this morning for work, I saw his list and smiled. And then, as I thought more, my heart literally melted. Not only did he write down what I (kinda) meant as a joke, but seeing his sincere effort to get things right really touched me. I know it is just a list, and we honestly shouldn't have eaten out because we had food at home, but it has made me think about some other things this morning. How many times have I overlooked him trying? How many times have I been so busy trying to "correct" "lead" and tell him what is "right"? How many times did I do these things and then keep it moving without thinking about how he felt afterward, not because I don't care about how he feels, but because I'm so used to doing it?
God only knows how thankful I am for my husband. How much he has stuck by me when I wasn't the wife that I am right now. And no, I'm so far from perfect, but I am a much better wife than I was. There is a saying, God is still working on me. He is. I've got a long way to go, but I'm getting there! And this list is a reminder for me that I have so much further to go to be a great wife.
How can I do this?
1) Continue to press into Jesus. Jesus is good and perfect and I want my life to reflect Christ. Not only does this mean be loving, but it means be merciful and kind and mindful of my husband as a person, but most of all, as a son of the Most High God.
2) Be meaningful with my words. I was listening to a bible study this week about a woman's power and not only did it stir up so many feelings (there is a post about this coming VERY SOON!!!), but I realized it is so true, how much power women have on men. Our words play a huge role in this. Think about what you want to say to your husband, and then think about what you want to say, and whether or not it is necessary, and life-giving. This does not mean, step back, and lose your voice. This means think about your partner, your covenant with God in your marriage and your role to be a helpmate, lifting him up and fully being the addition to his being that God made you for.
3) Enjoy my marriage. Marriage is a partnership and covenant with God. My goal is to everyday be filled with thankfulness for having a God as good as I do, and appreciating the husband He has provided me with by showing His grace and mercy in ALL circumstances and love like his son Jesus.
What can you do to grow deeper into your role as a wife?